But it's also kind of infuriating! :nodding: In fact, I recently skimmed an article that stated many adults with ADHD have that reaction & some mourn all the years they went not knowing & lacking support. [I realize this is not what you're writing about but it made me think of the similarities of pieces fitting together as an adult.]
re misinterpreting: it's been my experience that whenever I over-explain something, it makes things worse. That's why I drew further into myself & basically stayed quiet. Whenever I've let my true colors show, I end up losing friends & now they also have a skewed opinion of me. [It's only recently that I've discovered that I'm masking - which is a whole other thing I'm trying to come to terms with. It's become my personality.] In fact, I've thought about coming out with my recent [self]diagnosis as a way to explain but at my age, I know most people would misinterpret that as well which I've come to discover that others have this issue also. I have found some kinship via a FB group, so that's been helpful if only not to feel so alone. I also tend to go off on wind-y tangents lol. I've always done that. Now I know why.
Another aspect is me talking about my experience in light of what someone says/posts in their space has been ill-received as well. I hope my comments haven't offended you. I've come to understand that my doing that is my attempt to show kinship - but again it's often misinterpreted.
I'll end this comment with :hugs: :) It's difficult finding 'safe' people who understand <3
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Date: 2024-07-03 07:33 pm (UTC):nodding: In fact, I recently skimmed an article that stated many adults with ADHD have that reaction & some mourn all the years they went not knowing & lacking support. [I realize this is not what you're writing about but it made me think of the similarities of pieces fitting together as an adult.]
re misinterpreting: it's been my experience that whenever I over-explain something, it makes things worse. That's why I drew further into myself & basically stayed quiet. Whenever I've let my true colors show, I end up losing friends & now they also have a skewed opinion of me. [It's only recently that I've discovered that I'm masking - which is a whole other thing I'm trying to come to terms with. It's become my personality.] In fact, I've thought about coming out with my recent [self]diagnosis as a way to explain but at my age, I know most people would misinterpret that as well which I've come to discover that others have this issue also. I have found some kinship via a FB group, so that's been helpful if only not to feel so alone. I also tend to go off on wind-y tangents lol. I've always done that. Now I know why.
Another aspect is me talking about my experience in light of what someone says/posts in their space has been ill-received as well. I hope my comments haven't offended you. I've come to understand that my doing that is my attempt to show kinship - but again it's often misinterpreted.
I'll end this comment with :hugs: :) It's difficult finding 'safe' people who understand <3