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P'shaw (she/they) ([personal profile] pshaw_raven) wrote2020-02-16 08:40 am
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Bringing You Some Weekend Long Reads

How To Be An Adult - Dr. Robert Kegan posits that adults go through developmental stages the way that children do. However, at least in America, we seem to think that once you turn 18 or 21 that's pretty much it. But there's more to life than that, and apparently many of us are stuck on Stage Three. At that stage we're more concerned with what other people think of us and with their emotional states. My unprofessional opinion is that we're raised to believe this is the highest standard of adulthood, and that caring about yourself simply for yourself is pure selfishness and narcissism. So you ought to be far more concerned with other people's opinions about you than how you feel about yourself. But the reality is that while you can, and to a certain extent should, care about other people, you can't really be happy if you constantly allow them to shape you. At some point you start saying "fuck it" and moving into Stage Four, where you are "self authoring," and while you can take other points of view into consideration, you also are able to explore and articulate your own opinions and values. And anyway, there's a whole article on this, and you don't exactly need me to explain it to you.

10 Signs You're an INFP - Before anyone tries to let us all know that "MBTI has been debunked," please know that it's been debunked for the one and only thing American capitalism ever valued it for, which is job placement. Beyond that, MBTI is as reliable as any other personality assessment. That being said, this is a pretty spot-on description. While I do have my shit together to a great extent and can navigate my days without too much trouble, it's because I understand my own tendency to spaciness and living inside my own head, and have taken steps to make sure things flow smoothly in the outer world. Normally this involves lots of post-it notes, and my all-time favorite "get stuff done" tool, the digital checklist. Where would I be without Habitica and Google Keep? Probably sitting in my car somewhere in Palatka, eating an ice cream cone, wondering where my other shoe is, and Googling bird calls.

How Social and Physical Technologies Collaborate to Create Culture - This one's a bit more meaty, taking on the ways in which the outer world shapes our inner worlds, which in turn shapes our outer world ... and ... you get the idea.
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[personal profile] expandranon 2020-02-16 10:01 pm (UTC)(link)
I just took that test and came up INFP-T. When I did it in my youth, it was INTJ. I wonder if I'm actually any different.
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[personal profile] expandranon 2020-02-17 11:28 pm (UTC)(link)
Definitely still an 'I' after all these years. Don't think that'd ever change.
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[personal profile] rebeccarobota 2020-02-17 01:17 am (UTC)(link)
Funny, I was always an INTP and I just got INFP too. I guess that's what a decade of working on emotional intelligence will do.

I really enjoyed the "How to be an Adult" article!
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[personal profile] zenbaker 2020-02-17 11:44 am (UTC)(link)
Im an INFP too.

OH look, a butterfly!!! *runs off*

:)
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[personal profile] dorchadas 2020-02-17 08:49 pm (UTC)(link)
"How to Be an Adult" is really good, though admittedly I read Stage 4 and my brain immediately thought of, "You can tell I'm mature because my life philosophy is, 'Fuck y'all, I do what I want!' "